Thoughts After A Breakup - Part II
Several comments and questions poured in over the last 24 hours of people voicing their concerns. I want to thank you for them. I still have several to respond to. In general, I have been doing a lot of reflecting on my life since Friday (Jan 18, 2019) evening and basically chose to think alone with my thoughts all day Saturday. I want to let everyone know that I'm extremely thankful for each and every one of you, but specifically I want to shout out everyone that has impacted my life and helped me get to where I am today. Not sure if it's appropriate to list out everyone but I'm sure that I have already told you in a more intimate setting and if you truly inspire me or impacted my life, I'm sure it's a two way street and you're reading this now.
This blog post is going to be much different in any others that I've posted because it's similar to a journal. Just warning you ahead of time.
This past weekend, I experienced a heartache unlike any other and honestly, nothing I was expecting. I only told a select few people the details of what happened and am going to leave it at that. From this particular situation, I learned a lot about myself. I am resilient. I am unrivaled. I am confident. I am successful. I am unbreakable.
Something I have always valued is transparency. I like telling it like it is. I value when others are open and honest with me. If you hid something from me, I write you off - You're dead to me. It's pretty simple. In this particular situation, a friend of my ex spoke to another one of my friends and said some things that I still don't know what was said. This friend of my ex is totally dead to me. I will never refer her business. Some may call it spite, or lack of forgiveness. No. I value honesty and integrity. This person now has none.
Integrity is a pretty simple concept but I'm beginning to see that some people are flaky and I view this as they lack integrity. Be a man or woman of your word. I promise you, if you stick to your word, you will excel to new heights in all realms of your life and your business. If you say you're going to do something, do it. If you give "grey-answers," as opposed to black and white, I will look down on you. Don't sugarcoat anything. Let your yes be yes and your no be no. It's simple. In my book, transparency and integrity are a beautiful couple.
I realized that in all situations I am positive. Through my breakup, I have been positive. Through this situation I dealt with Friday, I have been positive. I see no other way to live life. You are either positive in all situations or you are not living your life to the fullest. Life is a beautiful thing and is full of countless things to cherish and adore. People will come and go. Money will come and go. Careers may come and go. Unfortunately, we all deal with it and it comes down to how you perceive all situations that determines the outcome to those situations. I choose to be positive and happy in all situations. I've opened up to very few about this but growing up, in elementary school, at good old Paradise Elementary School, I needed special attention when learning to read. It took me more than twice as long as the other kids to learn to read. I overheard people tell me I was a slow reader and called me dumb, etc. I chose to not listen to the negative and taught myself to read. Now I read everything. Each morning, before work I hit the gym and come back and read 10 pages at minimum. If I read 10 pages a day, that's 3,650 pages a year. That's a lot of great books! In high school, in my algebra II honors class, my teacher told me that I was so bad at algebra that I shouldn't think of going to college. Joke is on her because I went to college for accounting. If a manager or clients talks down to me at work, it adds fuel to my fire to be better.
The lack of encouragement I received as a kid has made me really appreciate encouragement. I never felt encouraged to do anything in my entire life until I began playing sports. My family has an incredible work ethic and I have been trained to work hard. I work hard to achieve my goals, at all costs. Being surrounded by hard workers, it's expected and never encouraged. I've found that I take kindly to words of affirmation from others. I tend to cherish friendships and relationships with encouraging people. You may be reflecting now on the dynamic of my friendship with you and realize that we encourage each other. I give it because I love getting it.
I am one of the most competitive people on the planet. Tell me I can't do something and I will find a way. My competitive spirit comes from playing sports growing up. I like to win. I really like to push myself to achieve big goals. At the gym, I have several goals that some of my guy friends think are not achievable, but who will laugh when I can incline bench the hundos. At work we have to do budgets for each job and I know this year each budget is highly scrutinized. On all my jobs, I am going to take personal ownership that we crush each job. When the partners assess who's jobs were all under budget, they will be able to see they were all my jobs. I say this also as a challenge to my coworkers reading this - Let's crush every job this year!! Also, this will be a big year for me with the exam. I am competing with myself to get the remaining parts of the exam completed this year. I have been working on myself to be sure I am mentally ready to compete and crush it and get those three letters behind my name.
Some people probably think I'm materialistic or driven by money because I talk about it. Money does help solve problems. Money can buy nice things. But who really cares about that stuff. I do picture having a nice house, with lots of land and a pool, with lots of space to have my family over for every holiday. I want to have the space because I family time. I am motivated to be the best provider for my future family. I have always said future family because I have an immediate family and I will always love them. But my future family is my future spouse and my future children which currently, I have neither and am perfectly fine with that. But one day, when I do, I will wake up each morning excited about my career and my goals so I can be the best husband, father, brother, provider, lover and friend.
If you read this all the way through, please hold me accountable. I'm so thankful for the people in my life. Thanks for shaping me!